Love Yourself Enough to Have Great Self Esteem
Impacts of Self-esteem & Self-love in a woman
While Self-esteem is having self-worth, confidence and pride in one’s abilities, self-love is the simply having regard for one's own advantage. Both are two different but interwoven concepts which have a huge influence on the growth and development or the lack thereof in the life of every individual.
Let’s talk about women; who in some cultures are regarded as the inferior being, driven by emotion which makes them weak, meant to be pampered and in some circles meant to submit to men in ALL THINGS. And thanks to a low level or lack thereof of self-esteem and self-love in some women; they believe these above qualifications and much more. This belief has so far been a major force limiting women’s capabilities; just as Maxwell Maltz said:
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”
More women than I care to even think of believe that since it’s a man’s world they need not go for more; why not just settle for the little they have? Hence, in the bid to change this mind-set, we’ll be looking at 4 impacts a high level of self-esteem and self-love will have in the all-round life of a woman.
People with low self-esteem are mostly dependent people, they believe they can’t do things on their own; hence the need to rely on others. This is prevalent among some classes of women; the classic mentality of ‘marrying a husband who has the wealth to meet your needs and take good care of you is unfortunately still in.
“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
― Mark Twain
Some women still believe they need to depend on others for everything both at home and at work. With a high level of self-esteem and self-love you will be able to do things independently of others, you’ll become a woman who others depend on and not other way around. You will become brave and daring enough to stand on your own two feet. You will be amazed at your confidence.
“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.”
– Yogi Bhajan
In every one is a strength; a gift which no one can take from you. the question is, do you know what that gift is; only when you’ve discovered what you have can it become useful to you; what’s the point of a warrior having a sword he can’t wield? What is the difference between you and the Oprah’s of the world? Failing to success…. simple and doing with coaches and advisors. Who is advising you? Who are you sharing your life’s goals with?
When you have a high self-esteem and self-love you believe in yourself; you try new things, fall but stand and try again, leave your comfort zone, sail on unchartered waters and only then can you discover what’s within. When you discover what, you have……oh my goodness the sky is the limit! Are you ready to discover the best version of yourself? Don’t delay anymore!
‘If nobody talks about you, then you are just not human;’ it’s only normal for people to talk ill of you, criticize and sabotage you no matter what you do (good or bad). The fact is no one else is like you so most people don’t always understand you. Don’t allow the thoughts and actions of others to steal your self-confidence. You need to surround yourself with like-minded people. People with goals, with plans of making a difference in their lives and the lives of others.
“One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”
― Michael J. Fox
If you allow what people say about you affect your opinion of yourself, there’s a limit to what you’ll achieve. When your opinion of yourself grows, you’ll stop waiting for other’s validation or approval. If you don’t value yourself no one else will. You are the first example of how the world will treat you. Show yourself the best love and respect for who you are the rest of us will follow. Wearing self-confidence is like wearing MAC make-up and great perfume. Folks will notice and say oh ok, look at her she is confident. If you are lacking in confidence, I have some strategies for you.
By depending for others to make you happy, you’ll have a long wait ahead of you. When you feel good about yourself you’ll be happy; there’s no way around it.
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
– Stacey Charter
How do I increase my self-esteem and self-love?
Just like every other development and growth of a human; it can take years to master on your own. However, if you hire a life coach, it’ll only get easier. You can collapse time frames and get it done sooner. With the help of a life coach, me, Darlaina Rose, you will be able to build the level of your Self-esteem and Self-love through the roof and you’ll thus be a better you, finally achieve your dreams and be that person others can look up to.
Darlaina Rose, Rose Coaching Services, www.DarlainaRose.com